By Robert R. Barney
This is a commentary on our recent Healthy Sex story. Many, including some in my family thought the story was too salacious for our news site. That’s exactly the response I wanted. Why? Well, the plain truth is that most of us do not understand the truth behind sex. It is very unfortunate that so many people have had their minds obfuscated with false religious dogma concerning sex and what God really wants us to know about the subject. You will see that God is no prude when it comes to sex and actually has given us a guideline on how to enjoy it without any guilt!
In Genesis, God creates man and woman after the GOD kind. Notice that all other created beings are created after their own kind, but man was created after God’s own kind. Note also that God says “Let US make man in OUR image”. At least two beings are talking together, and they claim to be God (see the meaning of the word God here http://www.blueletterbible.org/faq/nbi/1303.html ). What is the very first thing that God realized about man? “It is not good for the man to be alone.” God does not want us to be alone. He wants us in a union with another human, just as God is one, he wants us to be one, with the helpmate that God gives us. Next notice the first command God gave to Adam and Eve. Gen 1:28 God blessed them and told them, "Multiply and fill the earth and subdue it. Be masters over the fish and birds and all the animals." Then we read a little later this: Gen. 4:1 “Now Adam slept with his wife, Eve, and she became pregnant.” (NLT translation).
So sex was made for us to enjoy and to recreate after our own kind! We are meant to become part of the God Family. However, this command to have sex does not give us the license to have it with just anyone. Here are just SOME of the Biblical restrictions:
Lev 15:24 If a man has sexual intercourse with her during this time, her menstrual impurity will be transmitted to him. He will remain defiled for seven days, and any bed on which he lies will be defiled.
Lev 18:1 Then the Lord said to Moses,
Lev 18:2 "Say this to your people, the Israelites: I, the Lord, am your God.
Lev 18:3 So do not act like the people in Egypt, where you used to live, or like the people of Canaan, where I am taking you. You must not imitate their way of life.
Lev 18:4 You must obey all my regulations and be careful to keep my laws, for I, the Lord, am your God.
Lev 18:5 If you obey my laws and regulations, you will find life through them. I am the Lord.
Lev 18:6 "You must never have sexual intercourse with a close relative, for I am the Lord.
Lev 18:7 Do not violate your father by having sexual intercourse with your mother. She is your mother; you must never have intercourse with her.
Lev 18:8 Do not have sexual intercourse with any of your father's wives, for this would violate your father.
Lev 18:9 "Do not have sexual intercourse with your sister or half sister, whether she is your father's daughter or your mother's daughter, whether she was brought up in the same family or somewhere else.
Lev 18:10 "Do not have sexual intercourse with your granddaughter, whether your son's daughter or your daughter's daughter; that would violate you.
Lev 18:11 Do not have sexual intercourse with the daughter of any of your father's wives; she is your half sister.
Lev 18:12 Do not have intercourse with your aunt, your father's sister, because she is your father's close relative.
Lev 18:13 Do not have sexual intercourse with your aunt, your mother's sister, because she is your mother's close relative.
Lev 18:14 And do not violate your uncle, your father's brother, by having sexual intercourse with his wife; she also is your aunt.
Lev 18:15 Do not have sexual intercourse with your daughter-in-law; she is your son's wife.
Lev 18:16 Do not have intercourse with your brother's wife; this would violate your brother.
Lev 18:17 "Do not have sexual intercourse with both a woman and her daughter or marry both a woman and her granddaughter, whether her son's daughter or her daughter's daughter. They are close relatives, and to do this would be a horrible wickedness.
Lev 18:18 "Donot marry a woman and her sister because they will be rivals. But if your wife dies, then it is all right to marry her sister.
Lev 18:19 "Do not violate a woman by having sexual intercourse with her during her period of menstrual impurity.
Lev 18:20 "Do not defile yourself by having sexual intercourse with your neighbor's wife.
Lev 18:21 "Do not give any of your children as a sacrifice to Molech, for you must not profane the name of your God. I am the Lord.
Lev 18:22 "Do not practice homosexuality; it is a detestable sin.
Lev 18:23 "A man must never defile himself by having sexual intercourse with an animal, and a woman must never present herself to a male animal in order to have intercourse with it; this is a terrible perversion.
Lev 18:24 "Do not defile yourselves in any of these ways, because this is how the people I am expelling from the Promised Land have defiled themselves.
Lev 18:25 As a result, the entire land has become defiled. That is why I am punishing the people who live there, and the land will soon vomit them out.
Lev 18:26 You must strictly obey all of my laws and regulations, and you must not do any of these detestable things. This applies both to you who are Israelites by birth and to the foreigners living among you.
Lev 18:27 "All these detestable activities are practiced by the people of the land where I am taking you, and the land has become defiled.
Lev 18:28 Do not give the land a reason to vomit you out for defiling it, as it will vomit out the people who live there now.
Lev 18:29 Whoever does any of these detestable things will be cut off from the community of Israel.
Lev 18:30 So be careful to obey my laws, and do not practice any of these detestable activities. Do not defile yourselves by doing any of them, for I, the Lord, am your God."
Lev 15:24 If a man has sexual intercourse with her during this time, her menstrual impurity will be transmitted to him. He will remain defiled for seven days, and any bed on which he lies will be defiled.
Lev 18:1 Then the Lord said to Moses,
Lev 18:2 "Say this to your people, the Israelites: I, the Lord, am your God.
Lev 18:3 So do not act like the people in Egypt, where you used to live, or like the people of Canaan, where I am taking you. You must not imitate their way of life.
Lev 18:4 You must obey all my regulations and be careful to keep my laws, for I, the Lord, am your God.
Lev 18:5 If you obey my laws and regulations, you will find life through them. I am the Lord.
Lev 18:6 "You must never have sexual intercourse with a close relative, for I am the Lord.
Lev 18:7 Do not violate your father by having sexual intercourse with your mother. She is your mother; you must never have intercourse with her.
Lev 18:8 Do not have sexual intercourse with any of your father's wives, for this would violate your father.
Lev 18:9 "Do not have sexual intercourse with your sister or half sister, whether she is your father's daughter or your mother's daughter, whether she was brought up in the same family or somewhere else.
Lev 18:10 "Do not have sexual intercourse with your granddaughter, whether your son's daughter or your daughter's daughter; that would violate you.
Lev 18:11 Do not have sexual intercourse with the daughter of any of your father's wives; she is your half sister.
Lev 18:12 Do not have intercourse with your aunt, your father's sister, because she is your father's close relative.
Lev 18:13 Do not have sexual intercourse with your aunt, your mother's sister, because she is your mother's close relative.
Lev 18:14 And do not violate your uncle, your father's brother, by having sexual intercourse with his wife; she also is your aunt.
Lev 18:15 Do not have sexual intercourse with your daughter-in-law; she is your son's wife.
Lev 18:16 Do not have intercourse with your brother's wife; this would violate your brother.
Lev 18:17 "Do not have sexual intercourse with both a woman and her daughter or marry both a woman and her granddaughter, whether her son's daughter or her daughter's daughter. They are close relatives, and to do this would be a horrible wickedness.
Lev 18:18 "Donot marry a woman and her sister because they will be rivals. But if your wife dies, then it is all right to marry her sister.
Lev 18:19 "Do not violate a woman by having sexual intercourse with her during her period of menstrual impurity.
Lev 18:20 "Do not defile yourself by having sexual intercourse with your neighbor's wife.
Lev 18:21 "Do not give any of your children as a sacrifice to Molech, for you must not profane the name of your God. I am the Lord.
Lev 18:22 "Do not practice homosexuality; it is a detestable sin.
Lev 18:23 "A man must never defile himself by having sexual intercourse with an animal, and a woman must never present herself to a male animal in order to have intercourse with it; this is a terrible perversion.
Lev 18:24 "Do not defile yourselves in any of these ways, because this is how the people I am expelling from the Promised Land have defiled themselves.
Lev 18:25 As a result, the entire land has become defiled. That is why I am punishing the people who live there, and the land will soon vomit them out.
Lev 18:26 You must strictly obey all of my laws and regulations, and you must not do any of these detestable things. This applies both to you who are Israelites by birth and to the foreigners living among you.
Lev 18:27 "All these detestable activities are practiced by the people of the land where I am taking you, and the land has become defiled.
Lev 18:28 Do not give the land a reason to vomit you out for defiling it, as it will vomit out the people who live there now.
Lev 18:29 Whoever does any of these detestable things will be cut off from the community of Israel.
Lev 18:30 So be careful to obey my laws, and do not practice any of these detestable activities. Do not defile yourselves by doing any of them, for I, the Lord, am your God."
Paul even adds: 1Cr 6:9 "Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind". So sex within a God inspired marriage is guiltless, but outside of these perimeters it will literally kill you!
So, we can see that sex is something very special to God and it should be to us. Some of the most moving scriptures in the whole Bible is God comparing us (before we are saved) to a whore! We see the total agony we have put God through in our sinful lives, and he uses sexual imagery to demonstrate it. One actually feels the agony of what adultery means and how bad it hurts when God uses the same terminology to show to us how bad GOD hurts:
Eze 23:3 They became prostitutes in Egypt. Even as young girls, they allowed themselves to be fondled and caressed. Give her this message from the Sovereign Lord: You are nothing but a Canaanite! Your father was an Amorite and your mother a Hittite! When you were born, no one cared about you. Your umbilical cord was left uncut, and you were never washed, rubbed with salt, and dressed in warm clothing.
No one had the slightest interest in you; no one pitied you or cared for you. On the day you were born, you were dumped in a field and left to die, unwanted. "But I came by and saw you there, helplessly kicking about in your own blood. As you lay there, I said, `Live!' And I helped you to thrive like a plant in the field. You grew up and became a beautiful jewel. Your breasts became full, and your hair grew, though you were still naked. And when I passed by and saw you again, you were old enough to be married. So I wrapped my cloak around you to cover your nakedness and declared my marriage vows. I made a covenant with you, says the Sovereign Lord, and you became mine.
"Then I bathed you and washed off your blood, and I rubbed fragrant oils into your skin. I gave you expensive clothing of linen and silk, beautifully embroidered, and sandals made of fine leather. I gave you lovely jewelry, bracelets, and beautiful necklaces, a ring for your nose and earrings for your ears, and a lovely crown for your head. And so you were made beautiful with gold and silver. Your clothes were made of fine linen and were beautifully embroidered. You ate the finest foods-fine flour, honey, and olive oil-and became more beautiful than ever. You looked like a queen, and so you were!
"Then I bathed you and washed off your blood, and I rubbed fragrant oils into your skin. I gave you expensive clothing of linen and silk, beautifully embroidered, and sandals made of fine leather. I gave you lovely jewelry, bracelets, and beautiful necklaces, a ring for your nose and earrings for your ears, and a lovely crown for your head. And so you were made beautiful with gold and silver. Your clothes were made of fine linen and were beautifully embroidered. You ate the finest foods-fine flour, honey, and olive oil-and became more beautiful than ever. You looked like a queen, and so you were!
Your fame soon spread throughout the world on account of your beauty, because the splendor I bestowed on you perfected your beauty, says the Sovereign Lord. "But you thought you could get along without me, so you trusted instead in your fame and beauty. You gave yourself as a prostitute to every man who came along. Your beauty was theirs for the asking! You used the lovely things I gave you to make shrines for idols, where you carried out your acts of prostitution. Unbelievable! How could such a thing ever happen? You took the very jewels and gold and silver ornaments I had given you and made statues of men and worshiped them, which is adultery against me. You used the beautifully embroidered clothes I gave you to cover your idols. Then you used my oil and incense to worship them.
Imagine it! You set before them as a lovely sacrifice the fine flour and oil and honey I had given you, says the Sovereign Lord.
"Then you took your sons and daughters-the children you had borne to me-and sacrificed them to your gods. Was it not enough that you should be a prostitute? Must you also slaughter my children by sacrificing them to idols? In all your years of adultery and loathsome sin, you have not once thought of the days long ago when you lay naked in a field, kicking about in your own blood.
"Your destruction is certain, says the Sovereign Lord. In addition to all your other wickedness, you built a pagan shrine and put altars to idols in every town square. On every street corner you defiled your beauty, offering your body to every passerby in an endless stream of prostitution. Then you added lustful Egypt to your lovers, fanning the flames of my anger with your increasing promiscuity. That is why I struck you with my fist and reduced your boundaries. I handed you over to your enemies, the Philistines, and even they were shocked by your lewd conduct!
You have prostituted yourselves with the Assyrians, too. It seems you can never find enough new lovers! And after your prostitution there, you still were not satisfied. You added to your lovers by embracing that great merchant land of Babylonia[fn1]-but you still weren't satisfied! "What a sick heart you have, says the Sovereign Lord, to do such things as these, acting like a shameless prostitute.
"Then you took your sons and daughters-the children you had borne to me-and sacrificed them to your gods. Was it not enough that you should be a prostitute? Must you also slaughter my children by sacrificing them to idols? In all your years of adultery and loathsome sin, you have not once thought of the days long ago when you lay naked in a field, kicking about in your own blood.
"Your destruction is certain, says the Sovereign Lord. In addition to all your other wickedness, you built a pagan shrine and put altars to idols in every town square. On every street corner you defiled your beauty, offering your body to every passerby in an endless stream of prostitution. Then you added lustful Egypt to your lovers, fanning the flames of my anger with your increasing promiscuity. That is why I struck you with my fist and reduced your boundaries. I handed you over to your enemies, the Philistines, and even they were shocked by your lewd conduct!
You have prostituted yourselves with the Assyrians, too. It seems you can never find enough new lovers! And after your prostitution there, you still were not satisfied. You added to your lovers by embracing that great merchant land of Babylonia[fn1]-but you still weren't satisfied! "What a sick heart you have, says the Sovereign Lord, to do such things as these, acting like a shameless prostitute.
You build your pagan shrines on every street corner and your altars to idols in every square. You have been worse than a prostitute, so eager for sin that you have not even demanded payment for your love!
Yes, you are an adulterous wife who takes in strangers instead of her own husband.
Eze 16:33 Prostitutes charge for their services-but not you! You give gifts to your lovers, bribing them to come to you. So you are the opposite of other prostitutes. No one pays you; instead, you pay them! "Therefore, you prostitute, listen to this message from the Lord!
Eze 16:33 Prostitutes charge for their services-but not you! You give gifts to your lovers, bribing them to come to you. So you are the opposite of other prostitutes. No one pays you; instead, you pay them! "Therefore, you prostitute, listen to this message from the Lord!
Do you see why we must forgive other sinners? The answer is above. When we were apart from God, we committed adultery against GOD. We were no different than a cheap whore. These are the words God uses to describe our ungodly state. These are not Robert R. Barney’s words, they are GODS!
So you see the importance of the article. God wants us to be happy. Have a great sex life and HE has blessed us with great benefits for engaging in it. A long happy, heart healthy, cancer free, sexually active life into old age. After all, we read the Abraham had Isaac when he was 100 years old and Sarah, his wife was ninety! Isaac was a blessing from God yes, but it shows that the two were still having sex ! (Jer 29:6 Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters; and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished.)
Read you Bible! It’s not boring. It is the best seller of all time, and for a great reason: The author is the greatest writer of all time!
Little Known Facts:
Did you know the Bible talks about incest!
Gen 6:4 In those days, and even afterward, giants[fn1] lived on the earth, for whenever the sons of God had intercourse with human women, they gave birth to children who became the heroes mentioned in legends of old. Gen 19:5 They shouted to Lot, "Where are the men who came to spend the night with you? Bring them out so we can havesex with them." Gen 19:31 One day the older daughter said to her sister, "There isn't a man anywhere in this entire area for us to marry. And our father will soon be too old to have children.
Did you know the Bible talks about incest!
Gen 6:4 In those days, and even afterward, giants[fn1] lived on the earth, for whenever the sons of God had intercourse with human women, they gave birth to children who became the heroes mentioned in legends of old. Gen 19:5 They shouted to Lot, "Where are the men who came to spend the night with you? Bring them out so we can havesex with them." Gen 19:31 One day the older daughter said to her sister, "There isn't a man anywhere in this entire area for us to marry. And our father will soon be too old to have children.
Gen 19:32 Come, let's get him drunk with wine, and then we will sleep with him. That way we will preserve our family line through our father." Gen 19:33 So that night they got him drunk, and the older daughter went in and slept with her father. He was unaware of her lying down or getting up again.
Gen 19:34 The next morning the older daughter said to her younger sister, "I slept with our father last night. Let's get him drunk with wine again tonight, and you go in and sleep with him. That way our family line will be preserved." Gen 19:35 So that night they got him drunk again, and the younger daughter went in and slept with him. As before, he was unaware of her lying down or getting up again. Gen 19:36 So both of Lot's daughters became pregnant by their father.
What the Bible has to say about a moral love affair.
These passages are taken from Song of Songs and it is in YOUR Bible! What do you think “raisins and apples” mean, or “private garden.”
Sgs 1:4 Take me with you. Come, let's run! Bring me into your bedroom
Sgs 2:5 Oh, feed me with your love-your `raisins' and your `apples'-for I am utterly lovesick!
Sgs 4:5 Your breasts are like twin fawns of a gazelle, feeding among the lilies.
Sgs 4:12 "You are like a private garden, my treasure, my bride! You are like a spring that no one else can drink from, a fountain of my own.
Sgs 4:13 You are like a lovely orchard bearing precious fruit, with the rarest of perfumes:
Sgs 6:12 Before I realized it, I found myself in my princely bed with my beloved one
Sgs 8:10 "I am chaste, and I am now full breasted. And my lover is content with me.
These passages are taken from Song of Songs and it is in YOUR Bible! What do you think “raisins and apples” mean, or “private garden.”
Sgs 1:4 Take me with you. Come, let's run! Bring me into your bedroom
Sgs 2:5 Oh, feed me with your love-your `raisins' and your `apples'-for I am utterly lovesick!
Sgs 4:5 Your breasts are like twin fawns of a gazelle, feeding among the lilies.
Sgs 4:12 "You are like a private garden, my treasure, my bride! You are like a spring that no one else can drink from, a fountain of my own.
Sgs 4:13 You are like a lovely orchard bearing precious fruit, with the rarest of perfumes:
Sgs 6:12 Before I realized it, I found myself in my princely bed with my beloved one
Sgs 8:10 "I am chaste, and I am now full breasted. And my lover is content with me.
